Thursday, October 30, 2014

The Me to 7 Transition

I've been asked more than once if it was harder to transition from 1 child to 2 children or 2 children to 3 children.  (Incidentally no one has asked me if it's harder to go from 4 kids to 5, I guess they assume I'm crazy or insane.)

But I answer the same way every time:

One person (ME) to getting married was the toughest transition.  Additional children don't even come close.

Trust me that this doesn't say anything about my wife.  (I'm the problem here, I promise.)

But moving from just thinking about one person (ME!!) to also thinking about someone else (ANYONE ELSE!) was the biggest transition.  Now that I've made that leap, it's not nearly as hard to add an additional person (or 5) to the mix.

One of these days I'll stop being self-centered... it just might take awhile!

Monday, October 27, 2014

Discipline, Adrian Peterson, and The Bible

Hi, my name is Pheaney.  And I'm a fan of the Minnesota Vikings.

(Hi Pheaney)

Yes... I probably should be checked into therapy.

Without therapy, however, I can say that I'm a former fan of Adrian Peterson.

The Bible has a lot to say about parenting:
Discipline your son and he will give you rest.
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Fathers, don't exasperate your children.
And there's more... a lot more.

It's okay to discipline your kids.  In fact, if I read my Bible correctly it's the right thing to do.

But it is wrong to injure your kids or to discipline them without self control.

Is what AP did wrong?  Yes.

Is he an evil person?  Honestly, he's no worse than any of us with our parent's sin nature.  (Now he might be stupid and immature, but that's beyond the subject of this post.)

(PS. I scheduled this to post before the Vikings played the Tampa Bay Bucs... I hope I don't need more therapy.)

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Shame on me...

Shame on me for not thinking, worrying or praying about Ebola until it came to America.

Perhaps shame on you too?

Lord, may we think of others less fortunate more often.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Trending Up?

Two images for you.

Which one of these is most like your:
-relationship with God?
-relationship with your spouse?
-ministry effectiveness?

The first one looks great... ideal even.  But in truth it is unrealistic.

Reality is that there are going to be ups and downs along the way.  It's fighting through the downs and seeking to turn them around where the challenge lies.  

It would be nice if our life, relationships and ministry were more akin to a rocket headed for space.  But since they are not, what are you doing to work on them?

Thursday, October 16, 2014

10 Tips for Making Your Marriage Awesome

On occasion of my 10th anniversary I wanted to offer 10 tips for making your marriage awesome.*  (I'm giving this post a PG rating.)

1. Read the Bible together.
2. Take a monthly date night.
3. If at all possible, get away for an overnight trip each year for your anniversary.
4. Talk a lot about everything, and nothing, and anything in between.  Dream and scheme together about your family, church, house, etc.
5. Eat meals together as often as possible.
6. Don't have a TV or computer in your bedroom or dining room.  (Better yet, leave the TV out of the house entirely.)
7. Shower together often. (Told you it was PG)
8. Go to bed at the same time.
9. Enjoy a warm beverage in the morning and a late night snack in the evening. (Together of course)
10. Kiss, snuggle and carry-on.  (Keeping it PG!)

*I have an awesome marriage with the love of my life and we attribute much of our awesome relationship to these factors.

Monday, October 13, 2014


Wolverine (of the X-men) had the "superpower" of regeneration.  To me, that's just a faster version of our own real life power.  If we get a cut on our finger, we heal from it.  Slower than Wolverine of course, but still it's pretty miraculous.

Professor X can read minds.  I can't quite do that, but I can read faces, body language, and take a pretty accurate guess at someone's mood.

How many super heros out there have our everyday God-given human "powers" ... just magnified.

And since God gave you those powers for everyday use, shouldn't you be using them for Him?

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Monday, October 6, 2014

Try anything once

Well... almost anything.  And you may have to try it two or three times to be sure.

Really, if you're not trying something new you're severely limiting yourself in life, work, ministry and more.

Unless of course, it's something you shouldn't try at all.  Those things are out there.  Don't try them.

But if it is something you should try, you might need to do it more than once to see if it's a good fit.

Obvious?  Well then, what have you tried lately?  What have you tried that you shouldn't have?  What have you tried that you should do again?

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Shopping Predictions: You've been warned

Two predictions for you:

While you're out shopping in October you're going to see a Christmas display.  A full-size Christmas display in a big box store by October 24th, a week from Halloween.  I guarantee it.

Second, this might happen this year, but for sure it will within five years: We're going to be seeing Valentine's Day lawn ornaments.

I cringe to think of it.

When I'm right send me pictures... or maybe you shouldn't.  :)