Two images for you.
Which one of these is most like your:
-relationship with God?
-relationship with your spouse?
The first one looks great... ideal even. But in truth it is unrealistic.
Reality is that there are going to be ups and downs along the way. It's fighting through the downs and seeking to turn them around where the challenge lies.
It would be nice if our life, relationships and ministry were more akin to a rocket headed for space. But since they are not, what are you doing to work on them?