First off, this isn't for me. Secondly, this isn't from me.
But a couple friends of mine put me in touch with this document last year. It seems like a great worksheet for guys in the dating stage of life.
I didn't make it and I'm not even sure about it's exact origin, but I do plan on using it with guys in the future.
The text is below, but you can find a PDF of the document here.
You Know You Are Ready to Date When...
1. You have studied the following passages and written out clear observations about
how they apply to a dating relationship (bearing in mind that dating is not specifically
addressed in Scripture).
Romans 12: 1- 2 Romans 14: 22-23 1 Thes. 4:1-8 1 Cor. 6: 12-20
2 Cor 6: 14-15 1 Tim 5: 1-2 2 Pet. 1: 3-4 Psa. 37: 4-5
Psa. 16: 7-11 Php 2: 2-4 Prov. 11:14 1 Cor. 13: 4-7
2. You are able to explain why dating relationship with this particular person is more
beneficial than a continued, ongoing friendship with her at this time.
3. You have written out your relationship standards, bearing in mind the impact a dating
relationship will have on you, the girl you’re interested in, and other people in your
(pl.) sphere of influence.
Five areas to cover in your written standards:
a. Physical: How and when will you touch one another? (e.g. WIll you hold hands?
Kiss? Where can your hands be on her body? What about lying down with one
another on a couch?)
b. Emotional: How will you guard your own heart and refrain from manipulating hers?
c. Mental: What ideas or images will you permit your mind to dwell on? What sources of
input (e.g. movies) will you permit to shape your thinking about romance and
d. Social: How will you continue to foster Christian friendships with other men? How will
you continue to minister to the lost? How will you bless people through your
relationship together? How much time will you spend together in a week?
e. Spiritual: Do you share a common passion for Jesus? A common vision for life and
ministry to others? What spiritual qualities do you need to see in this person before
entering a relationship?
4. You have determined that the timing is right, because you have both...
• sought counsel from respected Christians who listen to you and ask probing questions
• sensed an inward freedom from the Lord to move forward after much prayer
• concluded that dating will contribute to each other’s life and ministry to others
• grown in friendship with one another through extended time together with a group of
• had sufficient time to get over any recent emotional hurdles (e.g. just ended another
relationship, parents just got divorced)
5. You have established a lifestyle of accountability with someone who knows and
counsels you from the Scripture. This person can attest that you are free of any sexual
addiction to pornography, and he will ask regularly after the progress of your
relationship and your own sexual purity.